1. God Hates A QuitterWhether it's a four year old quitting T-ball, or a husband and wife calling it quits, giving up is not part of God's plan. Think on this: covenant love promises to never quit, no matter how backwards things may seem. God never gives up on his beloved Church. Why do you think that gives you permission to be any different?
2. Roots Aren't Designed To TransplantWhen you plant a tree, the roots grow deep and wide. Roots are a powerful bond that are designed to keep us where we are. They break through hard dirt, gravel, rock, and even crack through cement. Roots are NOT made to be taken out of the ground they grow in! Our walk with the Lord is similar: it is designed to happen best in a community. If you take the time to set roots in one community, by attempting to transplant the tree of your faith, you end up having to re-establish your roots all over again. This takes time: time that you are without your support system, deep fellowship, and sense of belonging. Plus, if you are a skilled gardner (sarcasm...) like me, how many times when you move that plan from one pot to the other does it die? We wouldn't want that to happen, now, would we?
3. Alone We Go Fast, Together We Go FarWhen you decide to change churches, the other people around you who know you look at you and think maybe that is a good idea for them too. But staying encourages others around you to stay. Think of it like this: if you are teaching a kid to do the monkey bars and you can't make it across yourself, you're not really teaching the kid to keep hanging on. If they see you not complete your task, they will see that as a reasonable way of doing the monkey bars. So please, do it for the kids.
4. God Equips Those He CallsIf you think your church is worth leaving, God thinks it's worth changing. Because God sees value in things you don't. Otherwise the doors would be shut. It may just be that God has you where he has you for "such a time as this." And, that means He wants to use you to help your church become a place other people want to be instead of a place they want to leave. Be the change you want to see. That doesn't mean you need to start a new program. It DOES mean you need to smile.
5. The Grass is Not Always Greener on the Other SideJust because you see problems where you worship, and don't see them at your friends church down the street doesn't mean they don't exist. Here's a secret from somebody on the inside: every church has issues. Because we all fail. Sin didn't skip over any of us. And because we all have sin in our lives, it means we all have sin in our churches. And that means they aren't perfect. Don't leave for what you think is a better situation. Just be a part of making the situation you are in a better one.
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What's your reason for staying?